We have tried to cover up various aspects through this article, on why sharing our thoughts with someone is important in various situations of life. What is talking therapy or sharing of our bottled thoughts inside the mind? Who should we talk to? What should we know before sharing our secrets. These important questions mentioned before have been answered thoroughly in this article.
What is talking therapy and what is it meant by sharing the thoughts?
It has been found that the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. Out of which, 80% are negative, and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. This implies that we are thinking constantly either consciously or subconsciously. However, importantly, 98% of these thoughts never reach another ear and the person remains with the burden inside their mind. This might cause frustration and aggression within due to overthinking and lay down the foundation of an unhealthy mind.
Having someone you can talk to about anything makes it easier for you to deal with any stressful situation that may occur in your life. It helps you in releasing the burden on your mind with the repetitive or demotivating thoughts. When you share your thoughts, negative emotions, failures, weaknesses, insecurities, daily stressful situations to your family, friends or to a 3rd party, it helps you in providing peace to your thoughts. There are many other benefits which have been explained ahead in the article.
How to choose a person to talk to?
Well, we can talk to anyone we are comfortable with, someone who’s patient and does not create an unhealthy environment. It can be our friends or your family. However, there should be few things kept in mind while doing so, as sharing information with your near and dear ones might create several implications such as:
Fear of being judged
We usually assume how our friends or family would react if we tell them anything which is not fully accepted by the society. For ex: If some boy opens up about his sexuality and tells his mother and his friends that he’s gay, some degree of judgement is bound to happen from their side (that might be due to they have not experienced anything as such in their life) which is not healthy.
Stress Transfer
It is quite possible that while sharing our worries or thoughts to our near and dear ones, we end up shedding our burdens but at the same time leaving them with our tension or worries. Emotional connection between you and your near and dear ones may become a problem for you or for them in the process of sharing.
Information Misuse
When we urgently want to talk to someone and relieve ourselves, there are chances that we might end up sharing the information to a person who is capable of misusing the same against us. They may come back to us in an inappropriate manner with the information and may also try to blackmail us. Even might spread false information about us to ruin our image.
Biased Advises
When we share some information or take advise from our friends or family, we might not end up with a right and constructive solution as they may give you advise with a biased mindset towards you which will fail the whole idea of sharing or taking advise at that time.
Understanding Issues
Youth might have the fear that parents will not understand or misunderstand them due to the age difference. There have been several changes made in the lifestyle now and that which was 20 years ago. Parents might have their own pattern of thinking which might not match with the mindset of the youth these days leading to generation gap which restricts sharing of information between them.
To avoid the issues discussed above, it is recommended to talk to a person who is unknown but certified and knows what he or she is doing in the process of listening. Also, we can discuss with our teachers, mentors or any senior member we are comfortable with.
In situations like above, SpeakyourMind.in is there to help you take out your thoughts and shed the burdens of your life. We provide free listening service to help you maintain your mental health. We aim to listen your worries, thoughts, insecurities or anything disturbing you as we keep in mind these things:
Unbiased mindset
100% safety of your information
Freedom of anonymity
Without any fear of judgment
Benefits of Talking Therapy
Helps gaining new perspectives
A lot of times we tend to look at a situation in an unhealthy manner. There are times when we’re so sure about the fact that there’s no other way to deal with a situation and hence we end up reacting negatively towards it. But when you talk to some other person about it, many a times the other person will help you look at that situation in a different manner. He/she would help you look at the situation with a different perspective which might be positive in nature. Sharing them to another person also makes you consider what their view is, meaning you can gain new ways of thinking about your problems, simply by letting them out. In some cases, people discover that their worries or anxieties aren’t really founded on any real cause for concern or that what they thought was a very serious issue was, in fact, nothing at all to worry about – this can be a huge relief.
Decreased feeling of loneliness
Often people feel unable to share their feelings and issues with the people in their life, and quite often with those closest to them. Having someone who is a complete stranger, who doesn’t know you and won’t judge you, can give you the freedom to talk about things you wouldn’t normally admit to your friends and family. This is hugely helpful in making people feel less alone and isolated in their suffering, especially if you’ve had something on your mind that you’re too embarrassed to discuss with people who know you.
Coping up with everyday life
Sometimes we fail to realise that even minor issues could hamper our daily life. The daily hassles in an individual’s life makes it stressful for him which could lead to disturbed relations in personal and work life. This is where talking to someone and clearing your mind about it helps. Talking to someone about it could help you realise how to manage both, your work and personal life effectively. Knowing you can rely on someone to listen to your problems, frees them of worrying about their problems all the time, meaning they can focus on living their lives again. This often produces a virtuous cycle, as being able to focus on everyday life means people make positive changes in their life, which in turn lifts their mood.
Releases Stress
When facing a problem, talking is helpful to take some of the weight off of your shoulders and give your thoughts a voice. The feelings and negative thoughts which are bottled within a person tends to make them feel stressful. Once these thoughts are shared with some other person, a sense of relief is felt.
Sharing the burden
Having that one person that you confide in, who listens to you, relieves you of always shouldering the burden of your emotions. It’s quite common for emotions that are bottled up to have lasting effects on your mood and behaviour, and long-rooted issues can be the main cause of all kinds of worries. If you’re struggling to process your emotions and this is affecting your daily life, talking to someone can help.
Improve your physical well-being
Often when we talk about stress, we usually talk about our mental and emotional problems. We tend to ignore the fact that our physical well-being should be equally balanced too. Some of the benefits people get as a result of talking are: more energy, sounder sleep and a better appetite. This often has a knock-on effect, making people more active, which can elevate feelings of positivity. The other side of this coin is the simple benefit of spending time in close proximity to other people which, especially for those feeling lonely, can have a hugely comforting effect.
Cathartic Experience
Similarly, letting things out that you’ve been keeping inside can be a cathartic experience, purging you of pent up emotions, as many people find they are relieved of thoughts or feelings that they’ve been bottling up. Such a release often feels like a weight off the mind and allows people to begin to let go of feelings they’ve been holding on to. It is always recommended that you should keep calm and then think about the situation and how to deal with it. Because you can’t think rationally when you’re tensed or angry because your judgement towards the situation can vary because of your emotions.
Greater sense of
self-awareness
Examining your emotions with another person allows you to see yourself from the outside, resulting in a heightened sense of self-awareness. And once processed, this can have hugely beneficial effects in making people feel more at peace with themselves. With a boost in self-esteem confident follows.
Takeaway Message
The purpose of this article is to help the viewers get familiar with what is talking therapy and how it is beneficial for us. If anyone at any point of time needs someone to talk, please feel free to call us and share without any hesitation or fear of being judged. SpeakyourMind.in provides free listening service to help you maintain your mental health. This article has been published on behalf of the whole team, to spread awareness regarding sharing thoughts.
Reference
theworsleycentre.com
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