“Your life does not get better by chance; it gets better by change” – Jim Rohn
How often have we heard people talking about getting our lives together? I for one constantly engage in keeping my life together! But what does it mean? Well, informally speaking it means to start being mature and responsible, having control of the life you live. I am sure many of you probably already know this and have your versions of the meaning, so why are we talking about it now? Personally, this pandemic situation hasn’t been easy physically, mentally, spiritually. The uncertainty, the chaos, the loss, hardships, failures, frustration of not being able to carry on with our lives, and the stress that surrounds us every day is- let’s just say not very inspiring or optimistic. Not being able to complete tasks, not achieving the goals you planned pre-pandemic, not being able to socialize, the screen time, online classes, exams, office, taking care of the family, things have been hard for everyone be it a student or a homemaker or a business person. All this calls for a serious need of keeping it together! If your life is a mess right now, if you have trouble cutting off tasks from your to-do list, if you are anxious, if you can’t get yourself out of bed and have a “Productive day” or whatever you are feeling and going through right now it’s okay, you are not alone! But people, now is the time we work to get back on track not just on paper, but in reality! Just because it’s off-track right now, doesn’t mean it’ll be that way forever. There are numerous things we can do about it.
Getting your life together
Before we start it’s important to understand that life isn’t just going to magically start going your way, it has always been difficult and it always will be. What’s in our control is how we respond to these challenges, whether we are proactive or reactive, whether we are the problem-solvers or the problem itself.
If we constantly react to all misfortunes in life, we’ll be living to deal with the effects of that reaction and will be thrown off. Having a proactive mindset will help you navigate through these negative things in your life.
Now, here are a few ways you can get it together or at least try to-
Be grateful
I know life hasn’t been what we planned it to be and probably you have the worst things going on in your life, but there will always be things you have and are grateful about, maybe be your family, your friend, or your own life! In times like these the fact that you woke up fit and fine, it is something to be grateful for. The point here is if you only focus on the bad, you’ll feel miserable every time, but when you shift your mind to the good things you have, you unlock the chance of being inspired and have a positive mindset.
Identify if you are just mindlessly working or if you find yourself busy the whole day
Identify the chaos, what is it that keeps you overly busy. Make some time out for yourself. Being hysterical will not help you achieve your goals instead being calm and making proactive decisions help in the long run. If your life looks like a mess, try identifying all the factors that make it that way. Once you know the elements causing the chaos start working on them.
Acknowledge your hardships
There is a huge difference between acknowledging the problems and complaining about them. Having the victim mentality won’t help, don’t blame other people and other situations for the mishaps in your life. This is not to say that you are responsible for everything in your life, but the takeaway is, you cannot control what others do, what you can control is your method of solving the problem. Work out the problem, think of a solution, and work on it. Remember problems will not get solved in one day, use your analytical skills to plan your steps further.
Accept setbacks
No matter how mindful you are there is no way of escaping setbacks. Don’t be afraid of failing, each failure teaches you the most important lessons of success. My suggestion? Accept the setbacks as they come and overcome them head-on. Don’t let them discourage you or stop you in your tracks. If things get overwhelming don’t hurry, take it easy. One thing at a time.
Think about your dreams constantly
There is no doubt in the power of thinking and the subconscious, you are what you think, if you think bad, you’ll feel bad. But when you think good, like about your dreams you will be motivated to work for them.
Turn your dreams into goals
Dreams are the things you imagine, to make them come true you need to make them your goal, identify what’s stopping you from achieving it, bridge the gaps, and voila! You are living the life you dreamt of.
Work hard
Nothing in life comes easy. Work for your goals to make your dreams come true. Sure, some days you’ll feel overwhelmed, take a break if you need to but don’t give up because you don’t want to work hard.
Hang out with people who add to your life
Spend time with people who make you feel at peace, ask yourself if you feel drained after meeting them, or do you feel pumped up. If you are feeling drained, let go of them.
Look after your body
I am not talking about upgrading your fashion game, I am suggesting taking into consideration the health and energy aspect of your body. You'll feel like you can take on the world when your body is properly nourished and performing at its best. We can become more conscious of our emotions and desires by listening to our body’s needs. Ensure that the body is getting adequate vitamins and minerals and that it is in the best possible shape. Having a healthy body and mind will surely assist you in regaining control of your life.
Accept yourself and your emotions
According to Psychology Today, the habit of emotional avoidance is one of the main causes of many psychological difficulties. Nonetheless, we all indulge in avoidance of negative feelings from time to time; however, the difficulty with avoidance is that it eventually becomes a bigger problem than the one we are now dealing with. You affirm humanity by accepting your emotions. You save a lot of energy by accepting who you are rather than resisting feelings. Recognize the emotion, accept it, and move on! Negative emotions aren't going to kill you - they're bothersome, but not deadly – and accepting them is a lot easier than avoiding them.
Conclusion
Nobody chooses to be dissatisfied. Will you accept responsibility for getting yourself out of a situation if you're going through a hard patch in life? Taking responsibility is the most powerful quality we can have. Because the truth is that YOU are ultimately accountable for everything that occurs in your life, including your happiness and misery, your triumphs and failures, and your ability to get your act together. Get organized, give yourself some time and take one thing at a time. Remember what we talked about life getting together, it isn’t a magical moment it’s a constant struggle you’ll fail, you’ll rise back up.
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